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Saturday, November 7, 2015

Birth Story

Baby #5


     Tuesday November 3rd, our baby is eighteen days past the due date according to my last period, ten days past the ultrasound due date and only a week past the conception due date.
     Tonight Shane took the older two kids an hour early to the church to get some ward clerk things done before working with his Webelos class. Nephi had mutual and EmmaLily had an Activity Day Girls talent show! My mom and I were just going to watch a movie with Elijah and Willow until they came home, when around 5:50pm my first contraction hit. It was soft but deep. I knew it could be starting for real so I began timing them. 10-20 minute intervals. Since they weren't strong or regular I warned Shane but didn't have him rush home.
     Shane and the kids came home around 9:30pm. I was talking to Shane, who was still in his Scout leader uniform, when the first REAL contraction hit. We had a family prayer and sent the kids to bed, promising to wake the girls, who wanted to watch the baby come, when I was close to giving birth.
     My mom and Shane set up the bedroom for our home birth. Dollar Tree shower curtains lined the bed above our nice sheets. I made sure to get the red ones so the gore wouldn't be too noticeable! We laid an old fitted sheet above them and lined the head of the bed with all the pillows. The tub was running with warm water. My mother grabbed the DSLR and began snapping photos of the labor process.
     My contractions were still between 6 and 20 minutes apart and very inconsistent. I called the midwife and let her know it would be tonight, but not to rush over yet because I thought it could take at least a few hours and she was attending to another birth at the center.
     I got into the shower to labor since my contractions were getting more painful. The shower wasn't much help so I climbed into the tub to labor. It felt great in comparison! The constant warmth of the water lifting my belly was great, I laid on my side to make sure most of my body was in the water.
     Now this part may be a little too much information so if you get queasy easily when it comes to bodily fluids, just skim passed it!
    A contraction would hit and I had to go to the toilet. At first it was just gas, then each time I had a contraction it would be worse gas and eventually diarrhea. After about an hour of laboring in the tub and getting in and out to use the toilet, my contractions went from inconsistent to 6 minutes, contraction, 6 minutes, contraction, 2 minutes, contraction, 2 minutes, contraction, "Uh Oh, Shane! Call the midwife NOW!" He called, then helped me out of the tub.
     I sat down on the toilet and felt solid pressure on my cervix instead of in my colon.
     "Woah! THATS NOT POOP!" I exclaimed to Shane, who had been helping me to and from the bathroom. And we rushed to the bed.
     I lay down on my left side, my choice of birthing position, and requested for Shane to begin recording on his phone.
     Shane and my mom attempted to wake the kids, who got up only to fall back to sleep immediately. Oh well, they can watch the video!
     A contraction hit and I knew the familiar feel of a solid being moving with the shape of my body into the birthing canal.
     "The baby's coming!" I exclaimed.
      My mom and Shane tried to get me to open my legs to allow the baby room to pass through. I panicked, snapped my legs shut and told them to wait, that the midwife isn't here and we should wait for her. I briefly saw panic and empathy in Shanes face and I knew he felt the same way I did. Then a sense of impending doom befell me and I knew it was just transition.
     I was able to calm myself enough to realize this was all part of the process and my body knew what to do. I saw that Shane and I were on the same page, he looked around, thinking, as we waited for the next contraction to hit. It was mere seconds away but felt an overwhelming amount of time.
     I felt her body move deeper down into the birthing canal and knew for sure that we were doing this alone. I felt a sense of peace and love overcome me and knew everything was going to be perfectly fine. I was able to muster up the energy to open my legs and allow this child passage into the world.
     Shane, looking peaceful, and beautiful, with a sense of purpose and intent, knelt near my lower body as the third and final contraction hit at 11:52pm. I felt babys head finish coming down and out. The water breaking slowly and leaking very little at a time onto the towels around me, her soft small body sliding gracefully and gently out of my own. Shane only needing to guide her into the world and place her on my body as I cried out of joy at the relief of pressure and the sight of my beautiful baby on my body.
     Her birth was quick but not too fast, and fairly gentle on my body. Everything I had been praying for. This was my easiest birth yet. I am so grateful to have been able to have a home birth in the first place, but to have the baby in my bed with only my loving husband helping to bring her into the world as my mother took beautiful photos of it all was the biggest and best blessing I could have had.
     The midwife and nurse arrived about five minutes later, they were ecstatic that everything went smoothly, declared Shane an "official" midwife, checked the baby, checked me (no tearing at all!!!), helped birth the placenta, did other medical stuff and cleaned up everything <3 p="">


The birth story in photos:

Sunday, August 18, 2013

Lazy Sunday

Today we slept in like crazy!! waking up at 1:30 in the afternoon there was absolutely no way we could slip into church and pretend like we had ben there the whole time. the jig was up! so we had a pretty lazy sunday including ice cream sunday sundaes, tv, and glowsticks!

Willow took my phone while i was putting the kids to bed an decided to take pics of herself! heres the best one that actually showed up.



I also ordered some hair dyes and soon i will look like THIS

Just kidding! I wish i could have a rainbow head! ;-)

Peace love and rainbows!

Saturday, August 17, 2013

Pie Night!!

I didn't realize today was pie night for uni park ward! I was so excited to have something fun to do to distract me from not going on vacation yet that I scooped up the kiddos and ran to Mothers market to pick up some good pie ingredients! We made apple pie and chocolate haupia cream pie! I also picked up some earth balance sticks so I could have me some butter without getting sick :-)
I could also make vegan cookies and frosting and all kinds of great stuff with it!
Here's a pic of the chocolate haupia cream pie with whipped coconut cream!
I probably should have taken more photos but this was all I could think about!! Lol
The kids had so much fun playing in the stream at the park and I loved seeing all my beautiful friends! I even bumped into a good friend who is the sister of my friend told me all about the Power of Positive Thinking book and is the co owner of the blog Show Up For Life.
I love them! They are so fun and so sweet and such perfect examples of positivity and love as sisters in Zion.
She also took our family portraits last fall!!
So talented!!

Peace, Love and Pie!

Tuesday, August 6, 2013

Family, friends and fun


Today was pretty awesome.
We had our super adorable neighbor girl over while her parents were working. We watched cartoons, ate lunch, tried to nap and went on a walk! I was able to resolve the daycare issue I had complained about yesterday and we had the sister missionaries over an I took a split pic of them, switched their heads and sent the photo to their parents!! Lol
We grilled burgers and chatted like girls! They left us with a beautiful message of friendship and went on their way. Then I took the kids and drove to bolsa chica beach to celebrate august birthdays with my family! And that is where I am writing this post ;-)

Peace, love, friendship

Another late night post! Still counts as Monday.

Today was a long day. 
Went to bed at 3:30am last night because Shane and I couldn't help but finish off season 4 of Justified on FX. Such a good show, I mean well done. Great writing, fun interesting relatable characters, exciting cinematography, interesting story lines, the list goes on! Anyway, season four finished up this spring and now we have to wait for January? Maybe, to watch season five!!! It's so depressing!! I get all attached to these characters and then they make me wait so long for them to come back and then they kill off my favorites and I wanna strangle the writers, mind you I'm talking about several different tv series I'm watching recently...
Enough about that.
After going to bed at 3:30, I wake up at 8:45 to watch a neighborhood friend for the day, not usually so bad, only she was having a tough morning :-(
Then at 3 I email the daycare center where willow goes while I'm in school to tell them I can't find my paperwork for re-registering for this year and she tells me I needed it this morning!! I didn't even know that! I keep missing these time details! I already missed two previous appointments for the registration, so I'm pretty frustrated by this situation. I just try and tell myself everything is going to work out. I really do think it will just work out perfectly fine in the end. Where's the end? That's the problem. It's far away.
Anyway, I end up taking a nap that lasts three hours while my kids indulge in television, minecraft, and Popsicles, and I wake up just as tired as before :-( 
I make fish sticks and Mac n cheese for dinner which makes up for the homemade waffles with homemade butter honey sauce that I made from scratch for lunch today! They were super good! Oh I have a photo :-)
1953 reprint of the better homes and gardens new cookbook. I absolutely love it!
Anyway, Shane comes home and helps me feed the kiddos and get them ready for bed then I run out and use the free entrée coupons Shane won at Pei Wei! Which is super cool because I never feel like anybody really wins those business card drawings! The coolest part about our meal was the fortunes we each got.
I don't remember if I mentioned that Shane is preparing to defend his thesis to get his PhD this month or next month, but he's been hard at work! And I've been trying to plan our road trip family vacation that we may not get to go on if he has to defend sooner rather than later. But these recent worries are the reason I liked the fortunes so much! Here they are, Shane's is on top and mine is on the bottom!
I don't know about warm water, but I like the sound of that word "soon"!!
Then after we ate I went to the grocery store with the older kids, which I probably won't do this late at night anymore... Got some food for lunch and breakfast and dinner tomorrow. We are having the new sister missionaries over for dinner! I'm excited to talk to them more. I love the sisters! Mostly because I can feed them and have them over without Shane being there (since his schedule is so out of whack I never know when he's gonna be home!)
Then at around 11pm I visited my friend who is not well and just got out if the hospital, helped her clean up her house a little and listened to her problems, gave her a hug and then went by the grocery store again to pick up the things I forgot to get the first time and by the time I got home it was 1am. Now that I've finished my blog post it's about 2am and I have been awake for 17 hours with only five hours of sleep from the night before!! Oh and eating makes me nauseous but I'm still overweight. Sorry I may as well throw that last part in! 
In spite if these things, I know God is taking care of me and helping me do what I need to do. I know at the end of the day I have a beautiful family to come home to and warm bed to sleep in and I am so grateful for that. 

Saturday, May 22, 2010

The Month of May, a Short Novel, By Sarah Ryerson

Disclaimer: I probably shouldnt be writing this in the state im in, being tired after such a long few weeks... but i have to explain why, so just ignore the sarcasm, because there will be plenty! Also, a lot has happened so please be prepared for the short novel before you, go potty and grab a snack before you start...

The Beginning of May was Nephis 8th Birthday (may 2nd to be exact) and since my sister Shannon was visiting from Hawaii we decided to go to Go Kart World in Carson.
So the Saturday before his birthday (may 1st) we got everyone ready to go (grandparents, aunts and uncles, brothers and sisters, etc) and Shane says to me in a very helpful way;
"So, how much does it cost to go to Go Kart World?"
So, I looked it up online and found out that the tickets are discounted if purchased online and in bulk, which was great! (please note that, here, i was not being sarcastic)
And we set off!
(on a side note, my Palm Pre phone had been cracked a few days previously somehow on my couch by an unknown culprit, "police" are still investigating. Keep that in mind.)
Nephi got to bring his cousin Sage, who he absolutely ADORES, which made this trip a 100% awesome in the "Good Mom: Score Book" and EVERYONE had a BLAST. Even Elijah got to go on a go kart with me! Willow got to ride the baby go kart, which was hilarious! (photos coming as soon as they get uploaded and emailed) The Grandparents (all four) had fun riding too. It was just a good day!
Then of course I had to go and do something dumb.
Shane handed me his phone because a friend of mine called while we were waiting in line to get on the go karts. So I end the call as I'm getting in the go kart and stick the phone in my left pocket, since mine is in my right pocket.
As we are getting off the go karts and I look around for my MIL who is holding Willow, Shane says to me, "Can I have my phone back?" and as I reach into my pocket my heart skips a beat in horror when I realize that my left pocket is, in fact, completely empty. Quickly I check my right pocket because perhaps somehow by some mystical force of nature maybe, just maybe, Shanes phone might have beamed itself into that pocket to be with its one true love, my cell phone. Then, with a quickening of my pulse, I realize that both phones are missing! They must have slid out of my pockets while on the go kart, it was the only, and most obvious, explanation.
Shane and I look at each other after I finish checking my right pocket, he sees the horrified expression on my face and we both run back towards the go kart entrance.
Unfortunately another go kart session had begun, but almost finished, so we waited as patiently as we could for the workers to come over and acknowledge our existence long enough for me to ask one of them "if" they had found our phones.
(Now I was only being a little sarcastic here, and the reason for this was because I knew damn well they found our phones, the only question was whether or not they would tell me. I know I'm being a bit pessimistic, or rude perhaps, but I grew up near Carson and I know how some people are)
Anyways, after I ask them, one of the guys looks at the other and says quietly, "..hey that phone.." or something of the sort. The second guy then proceeds (and quite reluctantly I might add) to walk over to us and holds up a Palm Pre with a very noticeable crack on the screen. I knew it was mine immediately because of said previous injury to the phone.
"We found it on the track." says the man.
My heart fell.
Oh no! it could be Shanes! Please dont let it be Shanes phone! Please please please! I thought with only slight panic.
You see, I was sitting in a two person kart and I was on the left, so my left side was the only side next to the track. Shane's phone was in my left pocket.
After what seemed like twenty minutes, he hands me the phone. I check, its mine! Panic: gone.
Where is Shane's phone?
We told him to look in the kart for a second phone, he finds it. And we are once again reunited with our lost smart phones!
(note, we really shouldn't be so dependent on our smart, beautiful, little, hand-held, helpful, robot phones♥)
ANYWAY.... the rest of the day is a big hit and we all go home and have cake!

The Next Morning is Sunday, Nephi's actual birthday. We planned on going home to go to our own ward so Nephi's friends could sing to him and I had agreed to teach the nursery lesson and all that jazz.
Alas we were awakened early (and by early I mean about 8am, ha ha ha) by a hacking Elijah whose nose was bleeding quite abnormally. So Shane decided it best for us to take him to the ER. That was a good choice because it turned out that he had Pneumonia... or Bronchitis... or Something Along Those Lines. (note my sarcasm, because doctors are people too and dont actually know everything about everyone's bodies, even though they have a degree that says they studied the human body and how it works for ten years straight.) (note on the note, I love doctors and am not bagging on all doctors. Just this particular one)
Either way, I blame our smoke-happy downstairs neighbors and I am not afraid to write it.
It was also kind of lame because it was my sisters last day in LA, she was leaving for Hawaii the next morning.
We had to give our poor sweet little Elijah an inhaler so he could breathe better. And when we got home I had to get his prescription for antibiotics (which i fricken HATE, but i made sure i did it right so it would go away and not mutate in his sweet little body)
He got better and is doing great now, has not needed it again since!
So we finally came home and decided that we should work on planning Nephi's baptism, since he is now 8 years old, he has reached the age of accountability which qualifies him for baptism by immersion for the remission of his sins into the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints.
He was all too eager for this. I love that kid!

By Mid May Shanes brother and sister in law had come to visit from Georgia with their two year old daughter, switching off staying with us and with her family. It was really great to see them! However, this month was proving to be quite busy! They stayed for Mothers day (the brothers made their wives breakfast!♥ got us cards and flowers too) and after church we went to Boomers! It was great because Shane printed out some special Mothers Day coupons, where moms get unlimited play for free in May!! Then if its your birthday you get the whole month to chose when to go get unlimited play free too! Shane and Nephi both got free passes as well! that was pretty nice!
The next day we went to Boomers again!! Of course. Because that day was Shanes moms birthday, so we took her along and left the babies sans Nephi at home with my mom.

It was so much fun and so hilarious to race Shanes mom and Nephi in the Go Karts! We kept spinning each other out and breaking all the rules, and they never told us to stop! It was a really great way to relieve stress!

Finally we had gotten all the preparations done for Nephi to be able to get baptized, with the help of my wonderful friend Amy!
Ever since Elijah's Nemo birthday party the kids wanted me to build them awesome cakes like the Nemo cake I made! I don't blame them, it totally ROCKED! So Nephi originally wanted me to build him a Pokemon cake, but I convinced the sweet kid that it just wasn't appropriate for a baptism. Although he agreed to let me make it for him next year, we did decide on a design for the current years cake.
The Golden Plates!
Now this was an amazing concept, easy to build, no real difficult carving in the design. my only real dilemma was how the crap do i make it gold?!
So of course I Googled "gold cake" and came upon some hilarious sites, mostly mocking the gaudy, golden wedding cakes! Ha! Hilarious. And fortunately I found out how some of them made their cakes shimmer with golden glory!
The "easy" trick was to make a paint out of golden pearl dust and lemon juice. So I bought some pearl dust at Joanns for 4 bucks and tested it.
Nope.
Back to square one...
I figured if i could make it look mostly gold then i can just dust the fondant with the gold dust.
Attempted.
Success!
Victory is mine!!
(pictures to come soon. See, that is why I need my smart phone, people!!)

The Baptism was beautiful! I loved my dads talk, my mother seemed a bit nervous during her performance (goodness only knows why, the woman is a diva!) and Amys talk was great!
After Nephi was baptized he told his dad, "I feel like I just drank a lot of hot coco!" meaning that the spirit filled him with warmth! What a cutie! Im so glad his uncle could be there to see.

The day before the baptism, I got a chance to go to Target and buy some new clothes! I was so excited. I got a few outfits that I love, and hope to be too big for me in six months or less.

My little brother James ended up coming home with us that night and was going to stay for church the next day and I was going to take him home Monday morning so he could get to school. Shanes brother went back to his in-laws. So the house wasnt as crowded as before. They were going to come back that Monday, though, so I needed to clean up the house!
After church we came home and relaxed, which was nice! But that night I really needed to get some cleaning done before Shanes brother and wife came back! So I was running around the house picking up stuff, I went in the kitchen and as I was walking swiftly back into the living room my pinky toe got caught on the TV stand, like it so often does, only this time it snapped in the middle of the bone!
Who ever would have thought that such a tiny little insignificant appendage would harness so much pain... I never would have thought.
This stupid, and preventable, injury cost me my whole foot for a month. I couldnt clean up the house, I could barely walk without pain for a couple weeks AND we still hadnt taken my brother in law and sister in law to Disneyland yet!! And Folks, if you aren't form southern California, you really can not come here and not go to Disneyland.

This is true, so true that I still went a day and a half after I broke my toe. But that was only because I knew they had wheel chairs and having a wheel chair is like having an unlimited fast pass! Cha-ching! Hey, some good had to come out of this.
We opted to go without the kids this time, which was very weird because I had not gone to Disneyland without kids since I was a kid! So I suppose I had never spent the day at Disneyland without kids (I say this because my hubby took me to D-land on my B-day a few months prior, but it was only the evening, not an entire day)
My mother was gracious enough to take on the task of watching all four of our kids and my niece who was not her biological grandchild. Five kids ranging in age from 8 years to 8 months!
In exchange, I bought her a Disney Princess picture frame with 3D statues of Belle, Snow White, Sleeping Beauty, and Cinderella on it. My mom always associates my sisters and I with the Disney Princesses and those four just happened to represent us, in my moms mind. Needless to say she loved it! And I loved the VERY RARE alone time with hubby♥

The next day, which was a Wednesday, they left AGAIN, to go back to sister in laws parents home to visit again before they left for Georgia.

Now heres a tricky thing, ladies and gentlemen, communication! Because, one person can be trying to communicate something with another person, and think that what they said made sense to the other person and everything is planned. But then the other person changed their plans but the original person didnt think they were serious and everything goes wrong and they fight.
Communication is important in a relationship, but first you have to learn how to communicate!! Thats where it gets a little tricky.

The End of May is Shanes birthday, May 21st to be exact. So I said to him, "I am going to throw you a party and invite some friends over for a potluck birthday, would you like that?"
And he replied, "Sounds alright, but you dont have to. I do like spending time with just the family, though" This is where I was confused, because it sounded as though he liked my idea. I have been telling him for years that he should be more outgoing and make more friends and inviting people to a birthday party was the perfect way to do that, so I ignored the comment about not having people come over and settle with the, "sounds alright." part.

I Evited people, made a delicious homemade ice cream cake, created a balloon version of Shane, and made sure to only invite people who I knew liked to talk to him. I did not, as a matter of fact, invite only my friends, because there would have been a lot more mothers with kids there, I tell you!
Everything was ready to go, people came bearing delicious foods, we ate, we talked, we laughed and Shane really looked like he was genuinely having a good time. I really thought that the party was a success, and I think it would have been had his brother been there instead of at his in-laws. He was there because they wanted to celebrate their two year olds birthday on that day since they wouldn't see them during her actual birthday, which was a week from then, because they were going back to Georgia.
The next day, a Saturday, we attended our very first live LDS temple sealing! It was very exciting and very special, because it was the sister of Shanes high school best friend (who had passed away just after high school)
We RSVPd for the sealing around noon, a luncheon afterward, then the ring ceremony (her family is not LDS) and reception in the evening!
We had a great time at the sealing and luncheon. It was the first time i went through the temple wearing black (my foot brace) and hopefully the only time!
After the luncheon we went home to have a break and breastfeed baby Willow. We planned on going to the ring ceremony then reception at 6 or so, Shanes brother and and his wife were at my moms house waiting for us to get back from the luncheon because his brother wanted to give him a birthday gift and hang out for a bit.
I was a little annoyed with this because Shane told me he would dance with me (which he hadn't done for years) I was looking forward to that night for over a month and he was going to blow it off to go see some stupid movie or something with his brother. I said no, we ended up arguing and missed the ring ceremony, were late to the reception, I lost Shane for a few minutes and ended up in the middle of an awkward conversation between three old people, and when I finally got out of that I ate alone, then we left early and didn't even get to dance at all.
Shane said I was being selfish, but I think I was just not allowing him to be selfish (yet again) and that made him mad.
Sometimes guys act different when they are around certain people. This is true yet Shane doesnt really see it.

One thing I really love about talking to my sis in law is the fact that the complaints we have about our husbands (who are brothers) are almost IDENTICAL!
She told me that her hubby acts different around my hubby. This is true. And it bothers her sometimes, and it bothers me. Shane says that we just don't have that same sense of humor and trust me when I say that is a good thing, because all they do is make fun of people including us and its mean and they think its funny.
Okay, maybe we should lighten up a bit. But why don't you try having someone you love laugh at your expense every twenty minutes, how is that?
Anyway, I apologized for not trying to figure out a better solution to the problem. He could have hung out after the reception. But everyone was just stressed out and it had been a long month for everybody.
No real harm done. Right?

All in all it was a very exciting and BUSY month.

So busy, in fact, that it took me several months to write about it!!